City lawyer ends her friendship with longtime teacher bestie after her arrogance, competitiveness, and constant belittling finally cross the line: ‘She thinks being a teacher is the only "real" job that actually makes an impact’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Oct 26, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

It's not every day you come across a story involving a lawyer and a teacher where the lawyer is so clearly the good guy. But what do you know, this one is exactly that. Some people mistake having a job that helps others for a personality, and this teacher friend seems to have built her entire identity around being "the only one doing real work." 

The lawyer, who actually lives on deadlines and skipped meals, used to excuse her friend's self-absorption as immaturity or maybe burnout. But one night of unfiltered ego changed everything. The teacher spent the evening trash‑talking coworkers, downplaying every other profession, and treating her friend's achievements like background noise. The drinks were the only reason anyone stayed in the same room.  

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  • I've lost all sympathy for my entitled teacher friend

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  • This one friend I've had since high school is now a teacher and has started to say some of the most entitled and insufferable things that I had to block her number after the tonight's events.
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  • In the past, I noticed she's become increasingly competitive and self-absorbed. She thinks being a teacher is the only "real" job that actually makes an impact on society and that she works way harder than anyone including me (I'm a city lawyer who works til midnight or on weekends to meet court deadlines...) whilst she spends 1/4 of the year on school holidays overseas!!
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  • I thought that maybe she'd eventually come around, that maybe she was just enjoying the excitement of having money, full time job, authority, etc and as fresh college grads, maybe she was being a bit naive about the world.
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  • I also had some sympathy for her since she grew up in an extremely competitive, unloving household.
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  • But no, TONIGHT was where I drew the line!! It was sociopathic-level entitlement and I can't believe I sat through it (probably only thanks to the cocktails).
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  • It’s the kind of entitlement that feels less like confidence and more like a performance for self-validation. She bragged about overseas vacations while somehow claiming her job was harder than medicine or law, then demanded her friend travel abroad with her to “test compatibility.” She even picked a fight over unread TikToks, as if ignoring twenty rant videos was a betrayal. The conversation wasn’t just tone-deaf, it was emotional extortion dressed in friendship clothes.  

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  • Like she spent majority of the night belittling everyone (especially her teacher colleagues) and making completely uneducated, out-of- touch claims about non-teachers like myself (like assuming we don't do "real work" or saying dumb stuff like "so the work you do as a lawyer is pretty basic right?" - excuse me what planet are you living on), showing 0 empathy for people's struggles (even saying "he/she probably deserved it") then bragging about how much money she has (without giving an exact num
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  • My jaw was on the floor the entire night by the horrible things she kept saying and I couldn't work out why I was frozen stiff and unable to just DITCH HER right then and there.
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  • She even randomly picked a fight with me where she started accusing me of not wanting to travel overseas with her and had been deliberately avoiding it to spite her.
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  • No. I've repeatedly told her my reasons (medical and personal boundaries) why I'm not comfortable travelling with friends except for short local trips.
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  • Her response? "Well I need you to travel overseas with me so I can test whether our travel personalities are compatible and it's a REQUIREMENT for friends to travel overseas together before we have kids".
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  • What?? What law says that? And she knows I'm not planning to have kids (nor should it matter).
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  • She made a similar accusation about how I don't watch and comment on all the tiktoks she spams me.
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  • She sends about 20 Tik Tok rant videos... what lawyer or person is going to have time to watch and analyse each one when I barely have time to even text my family!
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  • Then we had another disagreement when she claimed that she didnt actually care about her students or being a teacher, she just liked the money and being in charge while having the comforts of school holidays and working at a fancy private school.
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  • I just couldn't help but disagree with that view. And then the additional entitlement of thinking she's allowed to waste my precious time and brain cells over this sh*t.
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  • I even asked her why she is saying the things she's saying, and her response was that I should just deal with it.
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  • Fine, then I'll deal with it by terminating this friendship thanks.
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  • There’s humor in the horror of it, this idea that teaching at a private school with long breaks grants moral superiority over everyone else. But it’s also sad in the way people inflate their importance to hide insecurity. The lawyer finally cut her off, which feels less like drama and more like self-maintenance. Pretending patience is virtue only works for so long. Eventually, you realize the smartest thing isn’t winning the argument, it’s ending it. and that's not an easy thing for a lawyer to do.

  • BeautifulArtichoke37 Why were you friends with her at all?
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  • OP teal_lantern27 She was nice back in school. We used to bond over a lot of hobbies and shared experiences. College was fun together too. Now that we're adults, she's changed a lot and clearly gotten carried away with some warped views.
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  • kellyelise515 I think she feels "less than" you. The difference between a teaching degree and the hoops you have to jump through to become an attorney are huge. I'm not dissing teachers but really, there's no comparison. I believe you did the right thing. We go out with our friends to have a good time not to get aggravated by their toxic behaviors. She sounds exhausting.
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  • OP teal_lantern27 I hate to admit it but I think you're right. She kept bringing up how "corporate" her job was because i's a private school ("It's so competitive and corporate I'm basically in finance or law "). It's a shame she thinks this way and feels the need to compare because I have mad respect for teachers (or anyone that can deal with kids because I'm terrified of them lol). But you're right, the reality is teaching and law are very different fields. There's no competing or comparing be
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  • N-Toxicade I'm I wrong or did I read that friend say they are mad at you for not traveling with them, you said you don't want to travel with people, and the friends response is to demand that you travel with them so they can see if you are compatible with traveling with them?
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  • OP teal_lantern27 Yes. That's how desperate she is to travel out of the country (and not work) and she thinks this is the only way to properly "bond" (or level-up?) as friends.
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  • Baebarri She teaches at a private school? Sounds like she's adopted the entitlement mentality of her students and their parents. She wants to be one of them so badly.
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  • OP teal_lantern27 Spot on! She sometimes talks about her students' extra curricular achievements as if they're her own... And she keeps talking about how rich the kids/parents are and trying to dress a certain way to impress them. I asked her if she would ever change to a public school and she scoffed like "why would I do that?"... because kids no matter their wealth deserve an education?
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  • xxSparkle_Tittiesxx "What lawyer has time to watch 20 tiktoks a day?" That comment right there is pretty insufferable, just FYI. What person, no matter what their job or having no job, has time to watch multiple spam tiktoks sent to them daily from friends? Your post sounds like you see yourself as above her. You both sound really young. Check yourself and walk from her friendship if you cant handle her.
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  • OP teal_lantern27 I used the word "lawyer" because I am one and that's the only experience I can call upon. I didn't want to generalise because people might pipe up and say "well I manage to find time - you just need to be more organised for her". At my work, my colleagues and I genuinely have no time to check our phones unless we're texting our partners about what time we'll be home. I'm sure people who work in other professions and industries might feel the same way.
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  • Sure-Definition9811 sounds like she's grading everyone else's lives instead of her own.
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  • ColaPepsi2712 Yup, bang on. She's struggling with her life and is desperately trying to inflate it in everyone else's eyes, and hopefully her own. Not sure if I feel sorry for her or just want to chuck my cocktail at her ... OP, you don't want that shit in your life. (Unless you're strong enough to support it and its only short term.)
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